Marriage

It is in the news that the mayor of Los Angeles does not have the ability to live with only one woman at a time. Maybe it is the idea that marriage is between two people that complicates his life. Maybe he is only multitasking in just one to many areas. Or just possibly it is that he has no control. Well I may have a solution to this problem.

It may be that we should not consider it a marriage until after maybe five years. All we need to do is to give the first five years another name. Any person can have a long marriage by only doing one thing. That is to work to keep each other happy and how do you do that. You do it by letting the other person know that you consider them an important part of your life. This means that you are able to WORK at the marriage and not just talk about how you feel. It meant that you DO things to keep the marriage going. Some people have a feeling that you can hit a person and it is that persons fault because of something that the other person has done. What is accomplished? Nothing it takes talking to make people a team and it takes feeling for each other to make a relationship last. I have met people who are divorced and still can not completely separate from the other person because despite the actions of that person they still feel for that person and know that the good parts of that person that made them love them still exists. It is not just the other person that needs to change, but all a person can do is to go forward with their own life and not change another person. A marriage with children becomes so much more complicated. The parents should at least be civil when the children or child is present and that will show each other that some semblance of maturity does exist. It can help them to remember that at one time they did love each other and maybe enough of that can remain to keep things civil.

A long lasting marriage can be work at times but it is always worth the work. A long marriage is not a game it is not something to take lightly. It is a constant commitment that in itself is nothing. It is not what you show to others. It is what you feel inside. It is what you show to each other. Marriage is not just the happy times. It is all of the time. It maybe something that you are showing to your children so that they will learn that is a good feeling and not what they see when they visit some of their friends. Those who have miserable marriages of divorces a maybe product of what they saw at home and it is not what partners should show children. This may be one of those things that are easier to write then do. It is always better to try harder.